When you open your heart to truly love others – unconditionally love – you make it vulnerable to hurt and pain. True love does not fail: it loves because love is what is right and good. And because we choose to love and are not forced, because we open ourselves up, we allow ourselves to understand what love truly is, and through it experience joy.
We also open ourselves to pain. But if we shield ourselves from pain, we prevent ourselves from truly loving. So I guess it’s a choice, which it should be. I think we need to trust in a love bigger than ourselves to bring us through the painful times, to believe in when those we trust fail us, turn on us, reveal that they aren’t actually trustworthy. We need to keep on loving anyway.
If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.
— by Emily Dickinson